What do guys really want?
Ah, the age old question. I would say that it depends on the guy’s age, but typically, no matter how old they are, they nonetheless want similar things. Men want space in the closet, to be praised for the good that they do, to be told how masculine they are when they fix something, and some good old fellatio. Men want to be fed well and they want to be listened to, even if you don’t understand or simply have no interest in what it is that they are talking about. My male friends have told me time and time again that they want a girl who will be herself , not presenting herself in an unflattering manner. Guys want a girl who is funny, smart and who can stand up for herself. They don’t always want to rescue you or pay the tab. An independent woman is what you want to be. Men don’t want a thousand text messages asking where they are and what they are doing. Men crave spontaneity and ambition. They are looking for a girl who is supportive, unmaterialistic, confident, honest and playful. Men, for the most part, want the same things in women as women seek in men, just not in the same sequence.
My girlfriend has been complaining that “our sex” gives her recurring UTI (Urinary Tract Infections) and yeast infections- what does this mean? And could it really be my fault?
The tough part about this question is that these infections can be caused by a number of things. Some women are genetically predisposed to UTI’s, which are usually caused by bacteria that travel from the colon to the urethra and bladder. In the case that it is you who causes the UTI’s and yeast infections, you may want to think about what your sexual escapades include. If you are having anal and vaginal sex with no cleaning before making those transitions, then chances are here lies your problem. Also, it may be a good idea to get screened for STD’s as they are known to cause UTI’s. Another explanation could be that your partner may have a predisposition to UTI’s and the solution to this is to ensure that you are both sanitary before engaging in sexual activities. You must both additionally be aware of how close the proximity of the vaginal and rectal openings are when having sex. Any slips can cause these infections. There are two very simple things that you may want to also keep in mind. One, your partner should always urinate before and after sex and two, she may just be allergic to latex condoms which have been known to cause UTI’s in the presence of an allergen.
Not to sound cliché but, does size really matter?
According to my research, yes size does matter, but not in the sense that you would assume. Size matters only in the case that if it is extremely large or small. Most women agree that if the penis is too small, then it does nothing for them and if it is too large, then it hurts them. The consensus is that a man with an average size (which varies from 4-6 inches) who knows how to use it, is the preference. My opinion: size doesn’t matter if you have confidence, rhythm, attraction, and of course, consent.
I am inundated with schoolwork; how do I organize myself?
I know you have heard it before, but heed my advice; sit down and make a schedule. The best way to become organized is by having set guidelines in place. Try to make a schedule for the week with the most important things (homework, studying) at the top of the list and the unimportant things (TV, hanging out with your buddies) at the bottom. If you follow this schedule devotedly you should have no problem getting everything done precisely and on time. You could use your calendar in your smartphone as a schedule, or you could download applications like AA Task and Schedule Planner. Try also to keep an eye on the time. If you notice that you are spending a lot of time on an assignment and you need to get other things done, come back to that time-consuming assignment later when you have finished all your other tasks. If you notice that you have four assignments that need internet help and two assignments that are done from textbooks try to group them together. Do all the internet work in a row and then go to the textbook work so you are not bouncing back and forth between your sources. Lastly, please remember that there are always tutors available to help you with your homework in the case that you find yourself completely overloaded and out of time.
I had a one night stand with my boyfriend of 6 months’ older brother a few nights before he and I met. On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is it for me to reveal that minor detail?
On a scale of one to ten, I would say this “minor” detail ranks an eleven. I know that it may seem insignificant to you because it happened before you and your boyfriend got together, but if he ever finds out, he won’t be thinking about when it happened, he will be thinking about how you neglected to tell him and how betrayed he feels for not being told. If you are the one to tell him, it will go a lot smoother than if someone else does, because he is going to wonder why you never shared that information with him personally. On the other hand, he may feel the same way that you do. He may think it is a minor detail, but you still should tell him and let him decide how he feels about it. It is very important to always be honest with the person you are dating because no relationship can be built on secrets.